person: girls can just be so.. urgh, you know?
me, a girl who loves and believes in other girls so much that i sometimes find it difficult to breathe: i do not recall, no
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2018 was the year of challenges & transformation
2019 will be the year of soulmates & turning your dreams into reality
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the line between not going out as an act of self-care and not going out as a symptom of depression is but a gossamer thread
a gentle reminder that you did well this year. you met new people, learned new things and felt new feelings. you did so many things that made you scared. you picked yourself up off the floor after feeling completely defeated or heartbroken. there were some really tough nights but you survived them all. you made people happy just by existing. you accepted many goodbyes but the serendipitous meetings made up for them. it was your own hard work that paid off but you always downplay it or compare yourself to others. that’s not fair on yourself. you’ve come so far from the first day of this year. you have more wisdom and strength now. yes, other people seem more “successful” but does that even matter? please don’t think so lowly of yourself to only think about your failures. 2018 was your year of growth. I hope you take a moment to be kind to yourself, and believe that 2019 will be even better.
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Say it with me:
I refuse to sacrifice myself and mental health to ‘fix’ others.
“To speak to another human becomes a risk”— Adrienne Rich
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“It’s not fair. People claim to know you through the things you’ve done, and not by sitting down and listening to you speak for yourself.”— Hannah Kent
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At a certain point you have to say ‘no’. Don’t keep compromising beyond your limits.
It’s annoying that you’re outraged, crying “censorship!” because you have restricted access to getting off of exploitation…for free.
In gay porn too.
What makes a 17 year old boy different from an 18 year old boy? Legality. Not morality.
(Also let’s be very clear, a lot of fucking pornography is child pornography. NCMEC estimated that more than 26 million sexual abuse images and videos were reviewed by their analysts in 2015.)
Why does an 18 year old gay “new adult” boyman go into pornography? It isn’t difficult to make the connection to LGBTQ homelessness. It isn’t difficult to make the connection to the fact that homeless LGBTQ youth often go into sexwork, not from a place of sex positivity or ownership of sexual self, but from a place of desperation.
You’re watching that desperation. And for free too. And complaining that you can’t watch it for free anymore, when you know damn well that even 8 year olds can find porn on the internet, and they do.
And it fucks with your brain too. These videos and images create dopamine as a reward but to maintain that high you need more; more images and videos, harder, more explicit, more deviant content. It also shifts your perceptions of sex, perceptions of the people you have sex with, and your perception of self. Have body image issues and watch porn? It gets worse! Because of porn consumption you view yourself from a lens of desirability. You measure yourself against constructed images.
And amateur porn is a replication of the dynamic of constructed images. Images designed to arouse, designed to be addicting. And amateur porn doesn’t come with a consenting adults disclaimer. It definitely doesn’t come with a consenting minors disclaimer.
And a consenting adults disclaimer in studio porn doesn’t mean there was nothing fucked up that led to the actors selecting porn as their source of income, that there was nothing fucked up that happened on set. A consenting adults disclaimer doesn’t even mean the actors were consenting, rape happens on porn sets and it gets filmed, and it gets watched.
And when you support one part of a system, you help fuel that entire system. There shouldn’t be any shame attached to being sensitive to those images. We are human beings and those images are designed to make us want more, to deliberately shift our perceptions, to make money and fuel the system. And porn does make money. A lot of money.
Globally, porn is a $97 billion industry, according to Kassia Wosick, assistant professor of sociology at New Mexico State University.
And that anger/frustration being expressed online about tumblr nsfw content is a symptom. We’re perpetrators and we’re victims. But we can either evolve or stay stagnant. Stay continuing doing the same shit, turning a blind eye in being complicit in harming people on a global scale.
You’re complicit. I’m complicit.
How do we all heal?
“A book can teach you, a conversation can assure you, a poem can seduce you, a genius can inspire you but only you can save yourself.”— Anthony Anaxagorou
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Kindness is often mistaken for softness and let me tell you, friends….that is a mistake you don’t want to make.
Kind people are not born that way, they do not stumble into it, kind people are forged in fire and darkness and imploding stars…they have steel cores. Throw a punch and you’re going to break your hand.
Kind people are kind because they know firsthand that life isn’t.
